Do you ever find yourself being “caught up” in drama with family, neighbors, co-workers, or friends? It can be an enormous distraction to an otherwise productive day. “Drama” in relationships can also create tension, division, and emotional pain.
”Drama” is any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results: for example, the vacation we planned with our friends was filled with a lot of drama.
In talking with women regularly about their lives, I have heard about conflicts and misunderstandings that have caused emotional pain, turmoil, and the loss of relationships.
Here are 3 tips to creating a drama-free life, as well as some scriptures showing what the Bible has to say about each.
1) Stop gossiping. This is idle talk, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. The word idle means: having no worth, importance or significance. The Bible states this about gossip:
"A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends."
“The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.”
"A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much."
"Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down."
2) Stop Justifying Your Actions. Do you desire to have peace? Peace comes only when we are living in line with God’s will. If you are following God’s will, you won’t need approval from your dad, mom, friends, neighbors or co-workers. Often times we can create a lot of drama in our lives by trying to get others to “see our point of view,” or to agree with a decision we made. It doesn’t matter what other people think of you; what really matters is what God thinks of you. If someone has a problem with a decision you are making or a way you choose to live your life, if you know you are right before God you have no need to defend yourself and justify your reasoning before others. Often times we do this because we fear the rejection of men. We fear we may hurt someone’s feelings. Frequently at the root of our action is our pride and fear that others will not approve of us. In the end, when you try to please man instead of focusing on pleasing God, it’s your feelings that are hurt and God finds our man-pleasing ways detestable.
"Much dreaming and many words are meaningless. Therefore fear God."
"He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others, but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.”
3) Start Praying: Ask God for wisdom and guidance. There is NOTHING that is too big— or too small— for God to care about in your life. He is a God of details. He knows all things. Read His Word and expect that He will answer your question.
"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
When King Solomon asked for knowledge, God was pleased and He gave it to Him.
2 Chronicles 1:7-11
That night God appeared to Solomon and said to him, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.” Solomon answered God, “You have shown great kindness to David my father and have made me king in his place. Now, Lord God, let your promise to my father David be confirmed, for you have made me king over a people who are as numerous as the dust of the earth. Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people, for who is able to govern this great people of yours?” God said to Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”
How would those who know you best describe you?
A. Being a daughter of the King? Or:
B. Being a drama Queen?